New Column: In Bed With Billy

By Broadside Sex Columnist Billy Curtis

My friends fondly refer to me as the gay Carrie Bradshaw. With my life being more dramatic than a Jane Austen novel, I have always felt the name suited me all too well. Every day I would have a new dilemma that would occupy my mind for most of the day. Story after story, I would verbally paint pictures of my dates, relationships and even sexual encounters to my friends in the hopes that maybe they could help me with whatever problems I had. After becoming a fine-tuned storyteller, I realized that my friends—while their advice was always helpful—could not help me with my situations and problems with men, so I took a new approach. If my friends could not help me with the overly dramatic situations I encountered, then maybe I could use my own experiences to help anyone who has found themselves in the same situation at some point or another.

Since then, I have been writing about my relationships as well as those of my friends to help shed some light on the many problems people run into when lost or bewildered on the path to love. I have ultimately become a connoisseur of the dating world, dabbling in all areas trying to find what just about everyone in this world is looking for: love. After every relationship, every date, every breakup and every recovery period afterward, I analyzed—or even over-analyzed—what went wrong in the hopes that next time I would try a different approach or method that would hopefully bring better results than the time before. Whether I was in a rocky relationship, or attempting a new sexual exploration or just dealing with matters of the heart, I made it my job to inform my many readers and give detailed accounts of every circumstance.

Question after question, it seems that as time continues to pass we all begin to have more and more of these annoying quandaries about love, how to find it and, more importantly, how to keep it. But how exactly do you do this? Unfortunately, the only real answer is to go out, try new things and meet new people (you may be surprised with the interesting people you meet, and maybe even date).

Relationships have always been a changing concept; people are very complicated creatures, and regrettably, so are the patterns of dating and sex. It’s like playing with fire: you know you’re going to get burned, but you are still willing to put your hand in the flame. No matter how many times we get hurt, or lose in a relationship, we are still willing to get back out there and try again.

Love has no boundaries, no faults and no mistakes. It’s what takes form through our direction as we mold it with our actions and emotions; either bringing us to benefit from what we made, or kicking us in the ass. It has never been a matter of gay or straight, male or female; we are all just trying to reach that same common goal of finding someone who makes us happy. Whether or not men want to admit it, they want to find someone to love just as much as women do, the only difference is that women and gay men are clearly more opinionated about it. Love is universal, much like music or math; you couldn’t imagine living without either of those could you? We search for love in the wrong places, we search for it in the right places, and of course sometimes you find it where you least or never even expected it to be.

In the many weeks to come, I will share every little detail with you. Expect to hear the sex details, the typical problems of dating and relationships, and the ups and downs that we all face with the problems of love. As they have done in the past, I hope that these columns give you some better knowledge as to what you want, what you need and what you are really searching for in this world when it comes to finding that special someone.